About Thomas
Thomas May brings a client-centered, human-focused approach to therapy. He uses empathy and respect to help people work through relationship issues, grief, self-esteem struggles, and major life changes. Thomas is a licensed clinical social worker - LCSW - with 41 years of practice in California.
Many clients want straightforward help with communication and connection. Thomas concentrates on practical steps to improve how people talk about needs, set boundaries, and repair strained ties.
Background and approach
He also helps people facing separation, caregiver stress, chronic illness, and the loneliness that can follow big transitions. Thomas pays attention to the whole person. He draws on existential ideas to help people find meaning and direction when life feels uncertain.
Conversations often cover values, purpose, and choices people can make to feel more grounded and engaged. Sessions are conversational and paced to each person. Thomas aims to meet people where they are, listen carefully, and suggest small, concrete changes that can ease daily life.
He often supports clients who are grappling with workplace strain, money worries, and midlife shifts. Over his four decades of work Thomas has focused on helping men navigate major changes, but he works with anyone seeking clearer direction and greater self-acceptance. His style combines steady attention with practical steps to reduce overwhelm and increase connection.
Client-centered and existential work online
Thomas uses client-centered therapy to focus on your perspective and needs. This approach centers on listening, empathy, and helping you make decisions that feel right. It is useful for relationship issues, self-esteem concerns, and improving communication.He also draws on existential therapy to help people facing life changes and questions of purpose. That work looks at values, meaning, and the choices you can make when routines or roles shift. It can be helpful for midlife transitions, grief, and finding direction after big events.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Thomas will talk with you about your goals and preferences and together you will decide which ideas and techniques to try. The plan can change as needs evolve so the work stays relevant.
Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to give practical flexibility. Video lets you have fuller conversation and visual cues, phone calls work well when bandwidth is limited, live chat supports quicker check-ins, and text messaging can fit short updates during a busy week. These options make it easier to schedule therapy around work and family life while keeping the focus on steady, ongoing progress.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Grief
Also works with
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Coping with life changes
- Divorce and separation
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 41 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English